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Posts Tagged ‘social life’

My poor blog how lonely and neglected you must feel.  I can’t believe  it has been over a month since my last post.  You must feel the same way my social life does, neglected and forgotten!

Sure I used to have one, a social life that it is.  Before kids I would go out with friends, have dates with my hubby, attend concerts, sporting events, spur of the moment weekend getaways, even the occasional upscale dining experience.  I was never a big partier, being somewhat of a shy, wall flower type I preferred to stay in the background but managed to have fun none the less.

Once I had kids, my social life all but disappeared.  Heck I can count the number of date nights on one hand, that I’ve had with my husband in the past 6 years! Life with kids gets busy and they are only little for so long that I have wanted to enjoy every minute I can with them.  Don’t get me wrong, I love my children and would sacrifice just about anything to make them happy.  I just didn’t realize how much of myself I have been sacrificing.  Seems I have forgotten about the me that existed before children.

Choosing to be a stay at home mom is something I do not regret.  But it can be very lonely and isolating at times.  Enter Twitter. When my husband first introduced the concept to me, I didn’t understand why I would want to use it. That quickly changed however,  when I discovered how easy it was to chat with other moms.  All of sudden I went from having no adult interaction during the day to being able to log on when I had a few kid free moments and find someone to chat and commiserate with.  I guess I didn’t realize just how isolated I had become and my husband was grateful I had other people to rant and rave to other than him!

Twitter is perfect for a painfully shy person like myself because I can actually have a conversation with someone without getting out from behind my keyboard.  I am the worst at going up to people and introducing myself.  And forget about going to an event or party by myself, where I have never met anyone there.  Gives me the shakes just thinking about it and my first instinct is to say no way am I doing that and run for the hills!  But what am I teaching my kids if I don’t step outside my own comfort zone and show them that even Mommy can do things she’s not comfortable with.

So my friends, it’s time to change all that.  I am taking a big step outside my comfort zone, getting out from behind this keyboard and attending Kathy Buckworth’s book party at Collected Works, next Wednesday night.  I will finally get to meet some of the wonderful women I have, until now, only chatted with online.  Hopefully my nerves won’t show, I won’t get all tongued tied and nervous and will be one step closer to regaining some sort of social life.